The last two days have been a whirlwind for us.  We suddenly realized that L was not as far along as we expected, and we had to deal with both our grief around this realization, and identify ways/resources to help him in his recovery.

And that’s all I can really say about this issue.  Which leads me to question the very name of this blog.  If that’s all I can say, then how “real” are we?

The reason I can’t go into details is that while I work to protect anonymity, the reality is that some folks can figure out who we are.  Especially since we have a bunch of friends and family who read this blog.

But while I feel its important for us to share the journey we’re on, if I share details regarding any of my kids issues, it puts them at risk.  At risk of being judged unfairly; at risk of having their “secrets” shared with strangers, or even friends they aren’t ready to share them with; at risk of violating their dignity.

Truth is, the details just aren’t necessary.  All anyone needs to know is that they’ve been hurt, long before they came to us, long before there were even eligible for fost-adopt.  This blog attempts to show the realities of life as a family that’s been thrown together via adoption, with special-needs kids recovering from trauma.

Even without the details, this is all very real.